Doch es gibt nicht nur Negativ-Beispiele. Momentan noch etwas inhaltslos sind die Piraten. Positiv anrechnen muss man ihnen sie jedoch, dass sie daraus keinen Hehl machen. Straffreiheit im Internet und kostenloser Nahverkehr waren in Berlin ihre Themen. Sie gaben offen zu, dass sie inhaltlich darüber hinaus nicht sehr viel zu bieten haben. Doch diese Offenheit kam beim Wähler an. So erreichten sie am vergangenen Sonntag immerhin 9% und zogen zum ersten Mal in den Berliner Landtag ein. Nicht zuletzt ist dieser Erfolg durch die kreativen Plakate der Piraten zu begründen. So arbeiteten ihren Plakate mit der Meta-Ebene mit Bezug auf Plakate. Konkret hieß das beispielsweise: „Traue keinem Plakat, informiere dich.“
Festzuhalten bleibt, dass konventionelle Plakate mittlerweile gar einen abschreckenden Effekt haben. Sind die Plakate kreativ, können neue Wähler gewonnen werden.

Basically….throughtout my days i talk to alot of girls standing up….and whenever i am talking to people in general i always match body gestures and movements to create some rapport. One thing i noticed over the past few weeks is that a hell of alot of girls that i have been meeting and speaking to cross their legs when they are standing. So i would always match this casually and naturally. I notice all my movements unconsciously, i know what i am doing and can change what i am doing to get to what i want. So if i keep doing something i will notice it, so i kept noticing how i was always crossing my legs to match the movement alot of girls were making.

This led me to an idea…..if i want to create rapport with girls i have just met and…if the average girl i am speaking to crosses her legs when standing and talking….then what would happen if i cross my legs before she does? This can get complex….for starters one thing can happen….she will follow my movement and cross hers as well, therefore forcing the rapport. However….she may not follow the movement, but then this leads to confusion in her thought processes….. Because If she doesnt follow the movement then it means she is not just trying to not build rapport, but in doing so she is also stopping herself from making a body movement she usually makes, therefore changing her behaviour. Which then leads to another thought that if she does follow my movement…will her brain see that as trying to unconsciously create rapport or will it see it as her making a body movement she usually makes? As well…..we could then extend this thought and say that….what if i was to verbally say something that was negative towards her AND THEN make the body movement, would she follow then? (she may follow as she see’s me do it and it reminds her brain that she usually does it so she then does it) It then leads to a thought that would i have to verbally say something to create the stimulus for her to follow my leg movement?

This whole idea really made me think about how we can force rapport or force a connection between two people, based solely on knowing a common trait that the person in front of us is likely to do. For example i noticed the leg crossing, but there could be loads of other common things that girls and people commonly like or do; certain foods and films, music, clothes, anything. This touches on cold reading slightly, but in the use of creating a connection with someone instead of creating interest and intrigue.

Anyway, what i’ll do over the next week or so is test out a few of these ‘Forced Rapport’ ideas and get back to you guys.

Its been fun.

Keep it real.

At one stage in my personal development road….i purposesly gave myself Approach Anxiety and general fear of women. Everyone asks me why…why would you do this. Well i wanted to test and discover more about myself in regards to what works and what doesnt. Simply because we are all different and some techniques to help us may not work on everyone. I did this by visualising the worst scenario’s imaginable for what would happen if i was to approach  a girl. I also purosely approached women in the wrong way and then did something wrong, so that it would create a belief subconsciously. So over about 2 weeks i went through loads of different techniques to see which one really worked best on me to help me cure myself of it. It was a real interesting time as you discover so much about your thinking process and what really makes you happy. Here is a list of the various different techniques that worked to some extent:

• Watching American Pie Beta House ….Watching a film that shows you the fun side of getting women is so motivating. This film was great for that.
• Awareness Exercise: This was a technique where you tihnk of a negative outcome then a positive and it helps your mind realise the difference based on how you feel.
• Imagining a good future outcome: Simply imagine something really good that could happen when you approach a girl.
• Richard Bandler Get the Life You Want: Great book, techniques such as Tips on Flirting and Become More Motivated really helped.
• NLP Swish Pattern

The use of the Swish Pattern was probably the most effective out of them all, which may not shock most as NLP is a powerful tool for therapy. How i used the pattern was different, you see…the swish pattern is used to change a certain behaviour with a more resourceful one. This can be simply done by picturing the negative behaviour, then the new more resourceful one and then overtaking it in your mind. But i did something different…..my aim was to connect the thought in my mind that….approaching women….would make me happy and would get me what i want. Once i did this technique….the next night i went out….i was EXCITED to approach women, i would literally run around a club looking for a hot girl, it was mad! See when i did the swish pattern i did do a few different ways, one was the standard use which replaces or changes a behaviour into another. The way i used it was slightly different, it connected the thought subconsciously of what approaching women will do for me. POWERFUL! It works with any negative behaviour as it connects what taking the action will give you.

Now i’m sure all my readers would want me to explain how i did it, but i cant. Its a technique that if done wrong will obviously disrupt your neurology in a negative way. If you want to use the standard Swish Pattern then by all means do so….but make sure it is done by a Practitioner. There is a reason why you need to have a license to practice NLP

A combination of the techniques above will definately help anyone with a negative behaviour they may be having, not just with women. Your mind is so powerful, everything you think has a profound effect on your life. Your world is a reflection of what you imagine it to be.

Remember that.

If anyone would like more information on the techniques used above….email me. They are ridiculously helpful and will save you alot of money and time.

Sam

So an idea i came up with lately will give you a sure fire way to get rid of any remaining AA and simultaneously help you get rapid results with women. It is a theory and a frame of mind, i currently use it whenever possible and it is a great way to approach not just your interactions with new women, but with anyone you have just met. I highly recommend reading  The Power of Now and Introducing NLP to help you out with this, they are also 2 of the 3 of my self named “Pillars of Life”

People in general will always related what they see in front of them to past experiences, its impossible not to in some respects. I remember when i was studying philosophy, in one class the lecturer began by saying to me “Whats that in front of you” ….I said “Its a chair”, he then replied with…..”How do you know its a chair”.

That one question spawned a massive debate, my reply to him was that i knew it was a chair because i had seen one before. But then he debates that i couldn’t have seen that exact chair before. Then we got onto the Theory of the Forms and all of Plato’s shiz. It was fun. Anyway the reason i pointed out this example is that as according to David Hume, a Scottish Philosopher; we have a presupposed harmony in our brain that lets us learn from experience which i agree with fully. If we have a memory of us falling down the stairs, then whenever we see stairs we will stay away from it. Its the reason why most people have phobia’s, they have a past memory that they are relating to the present moment.

This is all the same with our experience of women, if we have bad success in the past, then we will relate it to the present moment, so if we see a lovely young lady we want to approach, we wont because we will feel fear based on what happened last time. But in actual truth…..the person in front of us we have never seen before in our life!! Isn’t that a mad thought…..we fear things we had never seen until that moment. How can we fear something we would have no previous knowledge of?  The horrible reality is that we relate everything we see to what we already know or have been brought up to believe, which is why we are judgemental of cultures, religions and politicians. Sometimes its for the best, if we see a big tiger coming towards us we know to run. Our brain chooses certain beliefs and rules based on our own experiences and what we have been told, in order to protect us and make sure we Survive. But it can be for the worst, in the past i have been given abuse and racial hatred by alot of people because i am Jewish. I met a girl once who i got on so well with, until when she asked me where i was from and i said my Dad was from Israel…she told me how her family had brought her up to despise and want to kill my kind; she was half Palestinian. That took me away….the thought that we can hate people we have never met, only because of what we have been brought up to believe.

But the solution is simple, anyone can conquer their past and have the ability to treat every new situation as brand new, its actually very simple.

A little bit of fact for you all; every single person living or dead is different in some way…FACT. No 2 people are identical, even twins. Why? Because they have all been exposed to different experiences through their life. Experiences create beliefs and values in our brain, they are what govern our life. So if this is factually true, then it is safe to assume that judging someone new we meet based on someone we had met like them before would be stupid. Its like saying any British person you meet drinks tea and eats crumpets! Its not just stupid to assume that but unresourceful.

For men and PUA’s trying to better their skills with women this is what you should do……TREAT EACH NEW PERSON YOU MEET AS AN INDIVIDUAL. By doing this you will actually communicate better with them because it forces you to interact and listen to what they are saying because you have never heard it before! Each moment will be brand new, each moment will be a new experience. This also will cure you of your Approach Anxiety, heres why…… If the rule the fact that every person is different is true, then that means you do not know what is going to come your way, it is unknown what will happen. So….how can you fear the unknown. If i was to hold up a piece of plain paper in front of you and say to you “FEAR THIS NOW”….would you be able to……no! Unless you were scared of the colour white, or paper!! You would not know what to do, try it. Get a piece of paper out look at it and say….”This is what i fear” Your brain will get confused.

What most people dont realise is that any book or material on how to communicate better, presupposes a definite reaction from the person you are communicating with, which is obviously impossible. However this “Individual Experience Theory” presupposes that you have never experienced this situation before, therefore have to interact fully with it to understand it. You will be forced to use all your senses to gain as much information from the person in front of you as you can. Your skills for communicating will go through the roof. You will start to create a new and powerful system of beliefs in your mind. You will be….a Super Human.

Try it out everyone and get back to me with your thoughts.

Your main man Sam.

Its been way waaayyy too long since i have written on here. So long that i actually have an urge to just blurt everything out at once, but unfortunately we arent built with the ability to write as quick as we think. Damn you god!!

The last week or so has been a mad one, spent 5 days on a reality Dating TV Show which was a really interesting experience. I cant say anything about it yet, but once its out i’ll write something about it for you all and will let you also know when my episode is airing. The whole experience though taught me so much about myself and life in general. Being put into a new environment that you have never been in before will ALWAYS change you in some way. But then again….does it? Because once you leave it and go back to the environment you were in before, wouldn’t you just go back to how you already were? My friend Aziz said something to me a few weeks ago that really made me think when i was on the show….he said ” I don’t believe people change, i believe people just adapt to the environment we are in”. I do agree with this to some extent….we do just simply adapt to whatever environment we are in….but….then again we don’t… When i came out of the tv show and back to where i live, i found that i was….different. More care free and more In The Moment. Why? Maybe because i was taken out of my regular routine and everything was more fresh when i returned. So maybe we don’t change….and maybe we dont adapt….maybe we just Grow…..maybe every experience gives us something extra that we didnt have before.

Something else i discovered from my time in there…..i am used to eating a fairly low carb diet , but while we were in the house i was eating alot higher carb than usual. The funny thing was….i actually lost weight around my belly while i was in there despite eating completely different to what i thought was good to eat!! I was blown away by this and have been trying to figure out how it happened. To lose weight safely you have to manipulate your carb intake and burn more than you take in….simple, despite what people think it is fairly simple. But then again….this hasn’t worked too well for me. While in the house i was up early and going to bed later and probably burning more than i would on an average day but was eating high carb and losing weight. One thing that is true to weight loss and bodybuilding is that….there isnt one thing that will work for everyone. Or in other words…there is no truth to what works and what doesn’t. In some cases obviously this doesn’t apply. But what i am getting at is…to figure out what works it really is best to try a few different things. Which is something i should have been doing but havent because i was sure that what i had read was right because it seemed….logical. So this week i am experimenting with higher carb eating and seeing how it effects me with weight loss, mood and just general well being.

We in general just dont know whats right or wrong, there are so many options in the world that its impossible to know what can be the exact way and i mean EXACT way to do something. One thing i do know is right is something i have been doing and using alot lately….something i call Powerful Questions. They are simply questions I’ll ask myself that are the direct opposite of another question. For example….you may want to do something like approach a girl in a club and will say to yourself before “What if she rejects me?”. The powerful question you could ask yourself for this would be…..”What if she accepts me?”. Doing that will make you visualise all the amazing things that could happen if she embraces you, instead of thinking of all the negative things that could happen if she rejects you. The ultimate Powerful Question you could ask yourself would be the opposite of “What if i Fail?” which is….”What if i Succeed?”. The best thing you can do is make a habit of asking yourself these questions when and i mean WHEN you ask yourself the negative questions. It is soooo so so helpful.

So…. there’s a little round up of a few things popping through my mind.

Ooooo as well…..i have made a decision that i want to do the Tim Ferriss thing and have mini-retirements every few months. My current job means i only have to be in the city i live in 1 day a week…meaning i can live in other cities for 5/6 days a week. So what i am going to do is move to Leeds for a few months for July and August and then move back to Manchester for September and maybe October. Then somewhere else like Liverpool or Newcastle, then maybe somewhere small and in the country side . Basically keep it to the North of England and within easy train access I may go home for a few days too to Essex, i miss my dog Charlie, he is amazing.  So anyway…As long as i have Internet Access i can work from anywhere in the world 5 days a week….Isn’t the world we live in now great!!

Anyway thats all for now.

Take care everyone.

Sam

Just want to share a great new site a girl im friends with showed meeeeeee.

Stereomood is simply a site where you can play playlists of songs that match your current mood. The main page reads;

“behind every song there’s always an emotion. we don’t know why but maybe that’s why we love music.

so we’ve created a way to suggest songs that follow your feelings: stereomood is the emotional internet radio, providing music that best suits your mood and your activities.”

I fell in love with this site as soon as i started clicking away on the moods and then listening to the songs that came up, hell me, Sarah and Alex are all sitting in my lounge now listening to the Energetic playlist on my laptop right now!

Before i had an epiphany ( as i always do when im on the toilet !) as well….the site gets you to play playlists of songs that match your current mood…..but what you could also do is think of a mood you want to be in and then play that playlist. For example if you are sad you could play the happy playlist. Or this will help alot of you reading….if you are finding it hard to get to sleep….play the sleepy playlist.

Moods simply represent states you are in, what state you are in is simply dependent on things like your physiology, mental thinking and any external stimulus’s. Things like music can change your whole state.

So basically….use this site well and you could be in some positive states more often

Sam